My last blog post suggested that men might be touch-starved. But it’s clearly not just men who aren’t being touched enough. In her book Touch(2001), Tiffany Field argued that many societies, ours among them, are dangerously touch-deprived, leading to an epidemic of what she referred to as “touch hunger.” Why…
When I mention to my women friends that Ed and I snuggle for hours every morning before we get up, they often respond, “Oh, my husband wouldn’t like to do that.Sex is what he wants when I lie awake next to him.” But here’s the thing: Even though we often…
We all know that sex can be exciting, compelling and revitalizing. But did you know that when researchers recently asked happily married couples how important sex was to the success of their marriage —on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the highest — the average rank was only 6….
This week’s blog posts have explored the four faces of our heart, according to Buddhist teachings (click here), and the direct or “far” enemies of those faces, which prevent us from living in state of unselfish love (click here). I suggested that far enemies are relatively easy to identify because…
Earlier this week (click here), I explored the notion that, according to Buddhist philosophy, our heart has four faces, each one reflecting a different kind of unselfish love. Not surprisingly, each face has a direct enemy, a polar opposite that unambiguously works against the development of the positive states: The direct…
Did you know that your heart has four faces? Each sees the world in a different way and points you in a different direction, like the four needles of a compass. But each one belongs to your heart. They are known as the Brahmaviharas: Loving-kindness Compassion Appreciative joy Equanimity The image…