Welcome to Our New Series:
Choosing Compassion Over Fear
My own personal journey from a rebellious and tortured childhood to eventual healing and reconciliation depended on gradually learning to choose compassion over fear. You can read about it in my new book Nothing Bad Between Us, which is now available for preorder.
Choosing Compassion Over Fear:
The Healing Power of Music
featuring Doug Bradley
As part of our ongoing series, Choosing Compassion Over Fear, I am featuring some of our most cherished friends and colleagues to discover how they have navigated the landscape of doubt, insecurity, tragedy, and fear to move toward becoming their truest selves. Today, we are honored to present a very special excerpt from Doug Bradley’s book Who’ll Stop the Rain: Respect, Remembrance, and Reconciliation in Post-Vietnam America. Doug is an author and Vietnam vet who, with his co-author Craig Werner, spent two years making more than 100 presentations coast to coast, witnessing honest, respectful exchanges among audience members. The purpose was to explore how the music of the era, shared by those who served in the war and those who stayed home, helped to create safe, nonjudgmental environments for listening, sharing, understanding and forgiving.
The Vietnam two-step. Back and forth. Forth and back. Who’s right? Who’s wrong? The music of the Vietnam era can help ground us, get us out of the quagmire, by moving us away from these polarizations. Music truth is complex, an implicit recognition that no one voice can tell the whole story, that our public memory is inescapably plural. If we can value that Country Joe McDonald is a veteran and that gallows humor is part of the soldier experience; if we can grasp how Johnny Cash, after his tour of Vietnam, could describe himself as “a dove with claws”; if we can understand why Freda Payne would want to record “Bring the Boys Home” in 1971; and if we can appreciate why, until his death, Merle Haggard was conflicted about his song “Okie from Muskogee,” then maybe there’s room in our public memory for dichotomy and diversity? For forgiveness?
During our Q & A call and response sessions after presentations on We Gotta Get Out of This Place, audiences didn’t do the usual griping or head shaking; instead, they listened, intently and respectfully, to what all sides had to say. Maybe that’s why just about every conversation eventually moved somewhere to the middle, and, in the end, toward some type of communal healing, with every person who stood up and shared—veteran and non-veteran—feeling as if they had been heard.
Having engaged in innumerable conversations about Vietnam for more than 50 years, I’m here to tell you that this is not what usually happens. It was more than extraordinary; it was redemptive. Music gets credit for this positive development, and for creating a more accepting, and authentic, environment. But the participants themselves, albeit self-selected, deserve credit too—credit for their patience, tolerance, and courteous listening. Those sessions have important meanings for our processes of forming public memory.
In order to be accurate, our public memory has to be fundamentally different from the endless, recycled assertions of polarized interpretations of Vietnam, the U.S., Vietnam veterans, and non-veteran Americans. These interpretations seek to define in unchangeable terms what our collective and individual histories mean. While they’re argued with emotional intensity, they totalize; they move from the individual to the abstract and general.
Our experiences interviewing veterans for We Gotta Get Out of This Place, and during the call-and-response sessions after our presentations on the book, suggest an approach that can preserve both the universal and the individual. Music’s call invites a multiplicity of response: Where were you when you first heard this song? What did you feel? Who was with you? How do you feel when you hear it now…?
For millions of Americans, Vietnam and the mid-20th century are ancient history. But my co-author Craig Werner and I realized that the music and nonjudgmental sharing helped audiences to reflect on thorny issues of their responsibilities and duties as citizens; the meaning of patriotism, loyalty, and morality; and the authority of government. The Vietnam War, as (former U. S. Secretary of Defense) Chuck Hagel and others have observed, severely tested our democracy. But that war also speaks to the depth and resilience of the foundational aspects of American life—an important lesson at the present moment.
The strains of Creedence Clearwater Revival and Pete Seeger, the soundtracks of innumerable Vietnam movies, and the testimony of Vietnam veterans like Sue O’Neill and Bill Ehrhart echo in my ear. It’s their voices, their stories, and their songs that should populate our public memory. And maybe if we listen hard enough, we can hear them when we touch a name on the Vietnam Veterans Memorial.
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Excerpt from Who’ll Stop the Rain: Respect, Remembrance, and Reconciliation in Post-Vietnam America by Doug Bradley (Warriors Publishing, 2019)
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About Doug
Doug Bradley has written extensively about his Vietnam and post-Vietnam experiences. Drafted into the U.S. Army in March 1970, he served as an information specialist (journalist) for the U.S. Army Republic of Vietnam headquarters at Long Binh, South Vietnam, from November 1970 to November 1971. Doug relocated to Madison, Wisconsin in 1974 where he helped establish Vets House, a storefront, community-based service center for Vietnam-era veterans. He is the author of Who’ll Stop the Rain: Respect, Remembrance, and Reconciliation in Post-Vietnam America; DEROS Vietnam: Dispatches from the Air-Conditioned Jungle and co-author, with Craig Werner, of We Gotta Get Out of This Place: The Soundtrack of the Vietnam War which was named BEST MUSIC BOOK of 2015 by Rolling Stone.
Find Doug on Social Media:
https://warriorspublishing.com/authors/doug-bradley/ (Website)
https://www.facebook.com/doug.bradley.77 (Facebook)
@DBradMSN (Twitter)
A Special Online Session w/ Doug:
Return to the Scene of the Crime
Doug’s Books:
Who’ll Stop the Rain: Respect, Remembrance, and Reconciliation in Post-Vietnam America
We Gotta Get Out of This Place: The Soundtrack of the Vietnam War (Culture, Politics, and the Cold War)
DEROS Vietnam: Dispatches from the Air-Conditioned Jungle
Choosing Compassion Over Fear
Join Me
If you wish to engage with me in exploring ways we can move toward compassion rather than fear, I invite you to tune in at marlenafiol.com for bi-weekly blog posts and podcast episodes covering a wide range of perspectives, from finding your true calling, to healing estranged family ties. Participants include Jonathan Reckford, CEO of Habitat for Humanity, and Tom DeWolf, Program Manager of Coming to the Table, among many others. The series begins on September 21, 2020 and will run through the first week of December.
Remember, we are together on this journey.
— Marlena