Your Authentic Life: Counting the Days

Your Authentic Life: Counting the Days

I figured out that as of today, August 30, 2017, I have lived 24,235 days on the planet this time around. According to the Social Security Life Expectancy Calculator, I’m predicted to live another 7,000 days or so. Of course, it may be a lot fewer than that. That’s sounding…

Mindful Self-Care: On Eating

Mindful Self-Care: On Eating

We like to eat. Food makes us feel good. We probably obsess about eating as often as or more than we think about sex. I read the other day that when we were young, we all had around 9,000 taste buds. And each taste bud contained a number of specialized…

Mindful Self-Care: Friendship and Community

Mindful Self-Care: Friendship and Community

My husband Ed and I have deep friendships with only a handful of people. They’re like priceless gems. They’re like finding home. We’re committed to being there for each other no matter what. We know that these close relationships provide love, meaning and support. And because of the strong connections…

Mindful Self-Care: Rewiring the Brain

Mindful Self-Care: Rewiring the Brain

We need to begin to discuss something we’ve tended to avoid talking about. Let me tell you why. For a long time, I’ve had this thing called “urge incontinence,” a sudden intense urge to pee for no apparent reason. It’s not like “stress incontinence,” where one can point to a…

Your Authentic Life: Dumbing Down the Elderly?

Your Authentic Life: Dumbing Down the Elderly?

  I recently read At the Window, an essay by Mary Jo Balistreri. She wrote, “The elderly in our culture are simply not seen. Or if they are, they are often seen as less,” and she went on to provide illustrations of how she, at age 71, has personally experienced…

Personal Transformation: Money and Stuff

Personal Transformation: Money and Stuff

My good Mennonite parents (especially my father) were anti-materialists and anti-consumerists to an extreme. They firmly believed that God only asked for them to be obedient and humble in doing His will. He would take care of the rest. And they lived their lives accordingly. “We don’t need curtains. Just…

Your Authentic Life: Family Estrangement

Your Authentic Life: Family Estrangement

When I started and then stopped writing this blog over four years ago, my husband and I were estranged from three of our four middle-aged children. Each of them found something about us unacceptable, and the “somethings” were different in each case. “But you were always a good parent,” my…

Mindful Self-Care: Where Did I Put My Keys?

Mindful Self-Care: Where Did I Put My Keys?

“I just had them,” I said, fishing through the pockets of the jacket I had worn that morning. “Where did I put my keys?” My husband glanced up from his book. “Did you look to see if you put them in the freezer?” If you think this is a joke,…